MARITAL CONFLICTS

MARITAL CONFLICTS: HELP-MEET VS HELP-MATE!

And God BLESSED them – male (Adam) and female (Eve); for in God’s marital plan – MARRIAGE IS BLESSED not CURSE nor a CURSE as some may have acclaimed. And every marital couple is CALLED to INHERIT a BLESSING – (1 Peter 3:9 (1-12). When God makes you or anything, He makes them good and beautiful (Ecclesiastes 3:11; Psalms 139:14); and in God’s Marital relationship plan, purpose and pursuit – MARRIAGE is GOOD and BEAUTIFUL and is ASSURED – to be sorrow free; for the BLESSING of God MAKES rich, He add no SORROW and confusion with it as the Scriptures enjoin in (Genesis 1:28; Proverbs 10:22; 1 Corinthians 14:33).

When the PURPOSE of a thing is MISUSED and MISAPPROPRIATED, ABUSE takes its root. Meaning ABUSE which is – ABNORMAL USE or ABNORMAL BEHAVIOUR – in marriage for the context, is simply for the lack of knowledgeable understanding of God’s definition and intents (PLAN, PURPOSE and PURSUIT) in marriage. This is likened to or a result of ‘MEN’ who don’t LEAD but are BOSSY, and ‘WOMEN’ who don’t FOLLOW but SUBVERT their places in grace to suit individuals intent, which is contrary to scriptural demands. Hence we see some major reason for ‘Marital Conflict and Confusion’ in the Christian Faith.

When HELP-MEET becomes HELP-MATE as a result of NO LEADERSHIP and FOLLOWER as Scripturally demands, the ENABLING GRACE and EMPOWERING of God’s WORD, to make relationship BECOME what God intended it to be in His PLAN, PURPOSE and PURSUIT will then ENDS up in CONFUSIONS and FRUSTRATION. As such God’s intent (PLANS, PURPOSES AND PURSUITS) in marital causes will be HINDERED and become as in many cases a VAIN CAUSE to have been started and ventured into; just as Apostle Paul will make known in scriptural case as in Galatians 2:21;

“I do not FRUSTRATE the GRACE of God: for if RIGHTEOUSNESS (GOD’S INTENT) come by the LAW (MAN’S DEFINITION), then Christ is DEAD in VAIN” (Emphasis Mine) Galatians 2:21.

If you want as a MAN your WOMAN to provide you the ANGELIC needed HELP MEET, provide her the HEAVENLY atmospheric LEAD that’s desirable of Angels – Hebrews 1:7, 14; Psalms 103:20; for ANGELS don’t dwell in HELL to give the good deeds as DESIRED of them from God. You can’t hold God’s TRUTH in UNRIGHTEOUS BEHAVIOUR and expects a heavenly outpour of God’s RIGHTEOUSNESS in His BLESSEDNESS. God will only COMMEND what He COMMANDS.

“For the WRATH of God is REVEALED from heaven against all UNGODLINESS AND UNRIGHTEOUSNESS OF MEN, WHO HOLD THE TRUTH IN UNRIGHTEOUSNESS; 19 because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them” Romans 1:18-19.

TAKE TIME NOW TO PAUSE and THINK – SELAH.

Note carefully that In Scriptural terms, the word ‘HELP MEET’ as in Genesis 2:18 Scripture, is the same INTERPRETATION not in TRANSLATION, called PARACLETE as in Romans 8:26, which speaks of the Holy Spirit, who is our BEING HELPER; He’s our enabling HELPER in weakness and strength, to meet up to God’s demands and obligations in life and grace. Hence we can say He’s our HELP MEET to make up to God’s BLESSEDNESS and not a HELP-MATE TO COMPETE AND FIGHT with in by any measure in order to fulfill God’s SCRIPTURAL demands in His BLESSEDNESS. When God made ADAM (male), He gave him an assignment that is PRINCIPLED with RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY long before EVE (female) the wife was made. Indicating a male folks has an assignment with God, knowingly or unknowingly. And it is in the order to ACHIEVE the given divine assignment in BLESSEDNESS, that God provides a HELPER or HELP-MEET as it’s written:

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an HELP MEET for him” Genesis 2:18.

“Likewise the Spirit also HELPS our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered” Romans 8:26.

We can end all these divergent confusion and daily crises in MARITAL RELATIONSHIP places when we maintain in life and grace that which God has allowed us be. Be profoundly happy what God made you be, and therein you will find meaningful and purposeful FULFILMENT in God in Christ Jesus stead.

I pray that your MARITAL RELATIONSHIP will find a daily meaningful and purposeful FULFILMENT in God’s BLESSEDNESS in Christ Jesus stead. Amen.

“. . . 8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: 9 not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; KNOWING THAT YE ARE THEREUNTO CALLED, THAT YE SHOULD INHERIT A BLESSING. 10 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: 11 let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. 12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil” 1 Peter 3:1-12.

Rev Chukie MORSI