THE MARITAL CONFLICTS CONTEXT

THE MARITAL CONFLICTS CONTEXT: THE HELP-MEET (DIVINE) VS THE HELP-MATE (HUMAN) IN SCRIPTURAL CONTEXT AND PURPOSE!

And God BLESSED them – male (Adam) and female (Eve); for in God’s marital plan – MARRIAGE IS BLESSED not CURSE nor a CURSE as some may have acclaimed and or associated respectively. And every marital couple is CALLED to INHERIT a BLESSING – (1 Peter 3:9 (1-12). When God makes you or anything, He makes them good and beautiful (Ecclesiastes 3:11; Psalms 139:14); and in God’s definition of the MARITAL relationship plan, purpose and pursuit – MARRIAGE is GOOD and BEAUTIFUL and is ASSURED – to be sorrow free; for the BLESSING of God MAKES rich, He add no SORROW and CONFUSION with it as the SCRIPTURES enjoined, for God is not the Author or creator of any form of CONFUSION, especially now on MARITAL context – Genesis 1:28; Proverbs 10:22; 1 Corinthians 14:33.

Be it known today, that when the PURPOSE of a thing is MISUSED, MISUNDERSTOOD, MISCONSTRUED, MISINTERPRETED and MISAPPROPRIATED, then ABUSE and ABUSIVENESS takes its root and cause. The term ABUSE means in essence, the – ABNORMAL USE or ABNORMAL BEHAVIOUR – and in marriage or marital relationship context, is simply for the lack of knowledgeable understanding of God’s definition and intent (PLAN, PURPOSE and PURSUIT) in marriage. This is likened to or a results of ‘MEN’ who don’t LEAD but are BOSSY, and ‘WOMEN’ who don’t FOLLOW but SUBVERT DIVERGENTLY their places in grace to suit individuals intent and context of definition, which is contrary to scriptural demands and context. Hence, we see some major reason for ‘Marital Conflict and Confusion’ in the Christian Faith.

Know full well that GOD WILL ONLY COMMEND WHAT HE COMMANDS. As such, when HELP-MEET becomes HELP-MATE as a result of NO LEADERSHIP and FOLLOWERSHIP to Scripturally context and demands, what then do you expect to happen in such unscriptural context? There will be absence of the ENABLING GRACE and EMPOWERING BLESSEDNESS of God’s WORD, to make such relationship BECOME what God intended it to be in His PLAN, PURPOSE and PURSUIT; this is what then makes every human efforts and investment in time, finance, material and such like to ENDS up in CONFUSIONS and FRUSTRATION. As such, God’s intent (PLANS, PURPOSES AND PURSUITS) in marital causes will be HINDERED; more so, it will become as in many cases, a VAIN CAUSE that OUGHT not to have been started and ventured into. That’s   just one of the major aspects while Apostle Paul in his scriptural context, will make known of not frustrating the enabling grace available to him to do the gospel assignment as he scriptural stated – Galatians 2:21.

“I do not FRUSTRATE the GRACE of God: for if RIGHTEOUSNESS (GOD’S INTENT) come by the LAW (MAN’S DEFINITION), then Christ is DEAD in VAIN” Galatians 2:21 (Emphasis Mine).

Effective MANAGEMENT of any proven good and thriving cause is born in the LEADERSHIP and FOLLOWERSHIP that makes it be. Meaning, if you wants as a MAN your WOMAN to provide you the ANGELIC needed HELP MEET, provide her the HEAVENLY atmospheric LEAD and LEADERSHIP that is desirable of Angels – Hebrews 1:7, 14; Psalms 103:20; for ANGELS don’t dwell in HELL to provide and give the good deeds as DESIRED of them from God. You can’t hold God’s TRUTH in UNRIGHTEOUS BEHAVIOUR and expects a heavenly outpour of God’s RIGHTEOUSNESS in His BLESSEDNESS. God will only COMMEND what He COMMANDS. Same it’s applicable too of any marital woman  (wife) who WANTS a heavenly husband but UNPREPARED and not READY to FOLLOW his LEAD and LEADERSHIP accordingly, as Sarah FOLLOWED Abraham in scriptural context of God’s LEAD in her husband.

“For the WRATH of God is REVEALED from heaven against all UNGODLINESS AND UNRIGHTEOUSNESS OF MEN, WHO HOLD THE TRUTH IN UNRIGHTEOUSNESS; 19 because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them” Romans 1:18-19.

“. . . 6 even as Sara OBEYED Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye ARE, as long as ye DO well, and are not AFRAID with any amazement . . . “ 1 Peter 3:1-12 (Ephesians 5:21-31).

TAKE TIME NOW TO PAUSE and THINK carefully on this note and context below.

In SCRIPTURAL terms, the word ‘HELP MEET’ as in Genesis 2:18 Scripture, is the same INTERPRETATION not in TRANSLATION, called PARACLETE as in Romans 8:26, which speaks of the Holy Spirit, who is our BEING HELPER; He’s our enabling HELPER in weakness and strength, to meet up and be qualified to God’s demands and obligations in life and grace. Hence we can say He is our HELP MEET to make up to God’s BLESSEDNESS and not a HELP-MATE TO COMPETE AND FIGHT with, either within and without, and by any measure, in order to fulfil God’s SCRIPTURAL demands in His BLESSEDNESS. When God made ADAM (male), He gave him an assignment that is PRINCIPLED with RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY long before EVE (female) the wife was made. Indicating a male folks has an assignment with God, knowingly or unknowingly. An it is in the order to ACHIEVE the given divine assignment in BLESSEDNESS, that God provides a HELPER or HELP-MEET as it’s written:

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be ALONE (in PLAN, PURPOSE AND PURSUIT); I will make him an HELP MEET (to fulfill PLAN, PURPOSE AND PURSUIT) for him” Genesis 2:18 (Emphasis Mine).

“Likewise the Spirit also HELPS our infirmities (weakness and limitations): for we KNOW NOT what we SHOULD pray for as we OUGHT: but the Spirit itself MAKETH intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered” Romans 8:26 (Emphasis Mine).

We can end all these divergent confusion and daily crises in MARITAL RELATIONSHIP places when we maintain in life and grace that which God has allowed us be. Be profoundly happy what God made you be, and therein you will find meaningful and purposeful FULFILMENT in God in Christ Jesus stead. Therefore, know for sure again and again, that God only COMMENDS obedience to what He COMMANDS. Any breaking of His Word as Adam did to satisfy the statuesque outside His BLESSEDNESS, will make God’s Word and enabling grace for the individual inoperative. It’s for this and such like, that many Believers today live beneath the FULLNESS made available for them  by God in His BLESSEDNESS in Christ Jesus – who is our REDEMPTION DEED, Saviour and Lord. Hence, let the man show forth the genuine SCRIPTURAL leadership and the woman same like following. For its when the Woman wants to FOLLOW and the Man is BOSSY instead of showing leadership, there will be  wahala, that’s trouble. In same scenario, when a man offers LEADERSHIP and the woman can’t follow for whatsoever reasons, there’s bound to be confusion and chaos. That’s the foundation to all other conflicts and side effects respectively – Psalms 11:3; 1 Corinthians 3:11-14.

I pray that your MARITAL RELATIONSHIP will find a daily meaningful and purposeful FULFILMENT in God’s BLESSEDNESS in Christ Jesus stead. Amen.

SCRIPTURAL THOUGHTS WORTH PONDERING IN CONTEXT:

“. . . 8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: 9 not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; KNOWING THAT YE ARE THEREUNTO CALLED, THAT YE SHOULD INHERIT A BLESSING. 10 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: 11 let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. 12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil” 1 Peter 3:1-12.

REV CHUKIE MORSI